Are you in need of debt consolidation negotiations? After all, all you can do is all you can do. I actually had a book by that title once. I may still have it. Ask yourself, "Have I done my best?" "Have I lived by my standards, and been happy with my choices?" Then DO N'T beat yourself up. That appears to be what many people do when things go wrong, as they sometimes will. The lesson is that we can not control everything, can we? We can make all the best plans in the world, but other forces in the universe sometimes affect them, and there is nothing we can do to change them. I have developed some coping mechanisms in my life, as I have had some "rough" adventures in this life, even though I think I am a very good person, intelligent, and kind to others. Oh, well, stuff still happens.
Anyway, # 1 is my "stupid file." I literally visualize a drawer in my brain where I put situations that make no sense according to the laws of cause and effect. Some people have done some bad things and some stupid things to me or my children, and I have no way to understand why. My nature wants to know why. Anyway, after I struggle with it for some time, I have to put it in my stupid file as there is NO way to understand it, other than "things happen." .
# 2 coping mechanism is to "let go of it." Sounds simple enough, but not always the case. Depends on how analytical you are. But many is the time I've had to say "Oh, well." I've fought back to the best of my ability and done everything I could, sometimes, and it's still not enough. I 'm sure many people facing job loss, foreclosure, bankruptcy, feel this way. If you do everything in your power to get a job, and you still can't get a job, that is one of those times. That's a situation we don't have a lot of control over in this economy. Just like the people losing their businesses, etc.. After we fight, try everything, willing to lose everything, it's still not enough. Perhaps seeking debt consolidation negotiations by someone else is a way of "letting go." We turn the power over to someone else.
But that's not the way it is supposed to be, is it? That's not what we were told. There is supposed to be some logic to the world and life. But sometimes there is no logic. It makes no sense. It is sometimes harder to cope with things when they don't make any sense or we have no choices or control. It's one thing to find no job when you are not looking, but another when you've done everything in your power. So then we must deal with the financial consequences of our new way of living, that has happened to us, rather then lived by choice. Remember, every day I read about executives in their late 50's who were let go, not because they did a bad job, or made a mistake. And because of their age, a new job is not easy to find. A feeling of powerlessness.
I think many are suffering a great deal these days and I hope they are able to recover. I have considered myself very fortunate in that I have a job, as do my children. But I hear of many who have lost jobs through no doing of their own. Don't be afraid to reach out and seek help. Don't be ashamed, although I know many are. I would struggle with that.
But I have had to have help over time, and it helps make us better people in understanding others, rather than judging them. Let some other ethical, responsible agency be involved in your loan consolidation negotiations, such as your bank. Don't stay away from them - talk to them.
Jordan is a therapist, an entrepeneur, a dreamer, and a self improvement expert. I have spent years following my personal goals and my intuition. Check out my website at http : jordancburke-C. webcopycat.com.
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